The S Word

Letting go

For some reason the subject of Submission has been a big topic around me recently.  And I can honestly say that I wildly disagree with a lot of what is said regarding submission.  A lot of people  (read, women, mostly) view it as pretty much a fate worse than death, to have to be submissive (is it naive to disagree with such crazy talk?  Or am I headed down the same road just by having been born a female?).  I've had at least one woman tell me that she'd only get married if a man made her a promise that she'd only have to be as submissive as he was in their relationship.  Another person posed to me the question as to whether or not unmarried females have to cover their heads if they are without headship (which is to say, neither father nor husband).  I could regale you with other such tales, but the point is, people have a lot of questions about submission.  And people have a lot of hang-ups with submission.

I have no idea.  I'm not married.  To me it seems like submission is sort of, you know, a Biblical concept, but maybe it's only easy to say that because I am, in fact, unmarried.  We'll see what I say when I have to practice submission more frequently.  =)

But I've been thinking about submission a lot.  What it means to me, practically, being as I am an unmarried female.  I have people in my life to whom I submit (my father as my head, my boss as my boss, people older than me because, you know, that's how these things go), but my main job as far as submission goes these days is to submit to the Lord.  Which seems easy on paper, but sometimes I'm not sure it is.

All of this is a roundabout way of saying that I'm not sure when someone becomes pro at submission, but if anyone's gotten there, please give me tips.  I don't even have to submit to a lot of people, and I'm already not sure I'm doing it right.

For instance, imagine the consternation that goes on in my home when I talk about how I hope my husband is down with earrings so I can pierce my ears once I'm married.  My poor parents think they've gone wrong somewhere and in some horrible way.  But at least they taught me that I should be submissive enough to not do it if Said Potential Husband doesn't prefer pierced ears!  Haha, there's consolation in that, right?